Nine Things to Know about Male Sexuality

Okay, so I'm on the manhunt 'literally' for anything and everything about male sexuality, behavior, etc. I want to improve my trade, not just in the since that I have stronger plots and more detail, but I would like to interpret more about the gender to which I am not a part of. You think that women are the complex ones. Hmmm...maybe not, but here are nine things I found about men on about.com. You can take it or leave it, but I do think its largely the truth. I will provide the link at the end of this post.

Drum roll please....

1. Most men worry about their penis size (I don't think this one is much of a surprise to many of us)
" Sadly, they usually do this with little understanding of what the average penis size is. While some women report that penis size does matter, most people agree that penis size isn’t nearly as important as things like overall sexual interest, sexual technique, and sexual compatibility. All things that have much more to do with the organ between ones ears than the one between ones legs."

Avg size: 5.7 inches [erect]

2. Men don't always want to have sex but may feel pressured and here is why...

"The stereotype of male sexuality is that men always want sex. This stereotype is so ingrained in men that many act it out, engaging in sex when they don’t really feel like it just because it is expected of them. The fact is that there are many times when men don’t feel like having sex, and this doesn’t always indicate a “problem”. Low libido may be caused by physical or psychological factors, but it can also be a reasonable reaction to life’s stressors."


3. Men CAN have multiple orgasms (huh?!)

Frankly the directions and article on this subject was too darn long to post here, so here is the link. Enjoy, for those of you who are curious. http://sexuality.about.com/od/orgasms/ht/htmalemultiples.htm

4. Men can control ejaculation (Most of the time) .

While most men experience problems with ejaculation at some point in their lives, many don’t know that the timing of ejaculation can be controlled, most of the time, with relatively simple exercises. There are many myths about premature ejaculation and these can be difficult to overcome. But getting a better understanding of male sexual response, and learning to control ejaculation, can also lead to a greater experience of sexual pleasure.


5. Men can and (do) use sex toys. ( I know most of us think straight men don't use toys but that is a myth. You'd be surprised.

There is a myth that sex toys (vibrators in particular) are for women, and that they are like a stand-in for men. The fact is that sex toys don’t replace people, they do things none of us can, and the pleasure they facilitate can be for men as much as women. Sex toys can provide incredibly intense stimulation, unlike anything a man has experienced, and using sex toys with a partner can open up all sorts of new possibilities.

6. Men do have a "special button". While this is standard knowledge to every gay fiction author and likely readers of the genre, there are a sad number of men and women out there who have no idea.

"While not all men like having it pressed, it’s true that the prostate gland can be a source of intense sexual pleasure for men. Often referred to as the “male g spot” or the “p-spot” (a term that seems seriously unsexy to me), prostate stimulation, done either externally by massaging the perineum, or internally through penetration, can open up a new world to men who believe there’s only one way for them to experience sexual pleasure."


7. Anal pleasure is for all men. ( I agree, but I'm not sure the author wouldn't receive a black eye if he suggested this type of thing to some men)

"Many heterosexual men still think that if they like or want anal play it “means they are gay.” This is a false idea based on homophobic beliefs. Anal play won’t make you gay but it may make you very excited. In addition to prostate stimulation, many heterosexual couples are exploring the physical and psychological pleasure of reversing traditional sexual and gender roles. However they do it, once they discover the pleasure of anal play most men never look back."


8. Masturbation is good for men. (I bet alot of me out there would be happy to hear this. lol)

"Parents often give boys mixed messages about masturbation. They may say “it’s dirty” bit they also say “boys will be boys”. As a result almost all men masturbate throughout their lives, but often do so with feelings of ambivalence. And they rarely talk about their masturbation. Many of the secrets to a man’s desires can be found in the way he masturbates, and men who are good at pleasuring themselves can teach their partners what turns them on while exploring new ways to masturbate."


9. Male sexuality is not simple.

"This is the single most harmful myth about male sexuality. Because men’s genitalia are external, because they can usually get themselves off easily, because in the west we’re told that men have it “better” than women (as if there were only two genders on the planet) it is assumed that there is nothing new to know about male sexuality. As a result, one could argue that men are among the least sexually evolved and have to work extra hard to discover their own sexual potential. But it’s there!"



article from about.com by Cory Silverberg Follow this link to see where I'm coming from, there is all extra links for the underlined words I copy and pasted you can find on the web to other articles. Nine Things to Know about Male Sexuality