Trippin' across the World

I haven't been to many places, but I made a promise to myself that before I passed from this great Earth (hopefully at the ripe old age of 104) I would travel to each one of the continents. My friend and I decided we wanted to trek across the Earth sooner then later. So in the summer of 2009 we plan to go to Europe for a 19 day excursion. The trip will be tour guided and it includes a visit to Germany, Spain, and Italy. Yay! Since the trip is running up to around $4,000 I'm going to start saving right away. I'm super excited, and I know that if I don't go next summer I will go in 2010. Maybe I'll even get inspired by some of the towns we visit. I plan to bring a video camera and record the entire thing.

Pictures of the Week #5

This weeks theme is kiss!

Nine Things to Know about Male Sexuality

Okay, so I'm on the manhunt 'literally' for anything and everything about male sexuality, behavior, etc. I want to improve my trade, not just in the since that I have stronger plots and more detail, but I would like to interpret more about the gender to which I am not a part of. You think that women are the complex ones. Hmmm...maybe not, but here are nine things I found about men on about.com. You can take it or leave it, but I do think its largely the truth. I will provide the link at the end of this post.

Drum roll please....

1. Most men worry about their penis size (I don't think this one is much of a surprise to many of us)
" Sadly, they usually do this with little understanding of what the average penis size is. While some women report that penis size does matter, most people agree that penis size isn’t nearly as important as things like overall sexual interest, sexual technique, and sexual compatibility. All things that have much more to do with the organ between ones ears than the one between ones legs."

Avg size: 5.7 inches [erect]

2. Men don't always want to have sex but may feel pressured and here is why...

"The stereotype of male sexuality is that men always want sex. This stereotype is so ingrained in men that many act it out, engaging in sex when they don’t really feel like it just because it is expected of them. The fact is that there are many times when men don’t feel like having sex, and this doesn’t always indicate a “problem”. Low libido may be caused by physical or psychological factors, but it can also be a reasonable reaction to life’s stressors."


3. Men CAN have multiple orgasms (huh?!)

Frankly the directions and article on this subject was too darn long to post here, so here is the link. Enjoy, for those of you who are curious. http://sexuality.about.com/od/orgasms/ht/htmalemultiples.htm

4. Men can control ejaculation (Most of the time) .

While most men experience problems with ejaculation at some point in their lives, many don’t know that the timing of ejaculation can be controlled, most of the time, with relatively simple exercises. There are many myths about premature ejaculation and these can be difficult to overcome. But getting a better understanding of male sexual response, and learning to control ejaculation, can also lead to a greater experience of sexual pleasure.


5. Men can and (do) use sex toys. ( I know most of us think straight men don't use toys but that is a myth. You'd be surprised.

There is a myth that sex toys (vibrators in particular) are for women, and that they are like a stand-in for men. The fact is that sex toys don’t replace people, they do things none of us can, and the pleasure they facilitate can be for men as much as women. Sex toys can provide incredibly intense stimulation, unlike anything a man has experienced, and using sex toys with a partner can open up all sorts of new possibilities.

6. Men do have a "special button". While this is standard knowledge to every gay fiction author and likely readers of the genre, there are a sad number of men and women out there who have no idea.

"While not all men like having it pressed, it’s true that the prostate gland can be a source of intense sexual pleasure for men. Often referred to as the “male g spot” or the “p-spot” (a term that seems seriously unsexy to me), prostate stimulation, done either externally by massaging the perineum, or internally through penetration, can open up a new world to men who believe there’s only one way for them to experience sexual pleasure."


7. Anal pleasure is for all men. ( I agree, but I'm not sure the author wouldn't receive a black eye if he suggested this type of thing to some men)

"Many heterosexual men still think that if they like or want anal play it “means they are gay.” This is a false idea based on homophobic beliefs. Anal play won’t make you gay but it may make you very excited. In addition to prostate stimulation, many heterosexual couples are exploring the physical and psychological pleasure of reversing traditional sexual and gender roles. However they do it, once they discover the pleasure of anal play most men never look back."


8. Masturbation is good for men. (I bet alot of me out there would be happy to hear this. lol)

"Parents often give boys mixed messages about masturbation. They may say “it’s dirty” bit they also say “boys will be boys”. As a result almost all men masturbate throughout their lives, but often do so with feelings of ambivalence. And they rarely talk about their masturbation. Many of the secrets to a man’s desires can be found in the way he masturbates, and men who are good at pleasuring themselves can teach their partners what turns them on while exploring new ways to masturbate."


9. Male sexuality is not simple.

"This is the single most harmful myth about male sexuality. Because men’s genitalia are external, because they can usually get themselves off easily, because in the west we’re told that men have it “better” than women (as if there were only two genders on the planet) it is assumed that there is nothing new to know about male sexuality. As a result, one could argue that men are among the least sexually evolved and have to work extra hard to discover their own sexual potential. But it’s there!"



article from about.com by Cory Silverberg Follow this link to see where I'm coming from, there is all extra links for the underlined words I copy and pasted you can find on the web to other articles. Nine Things to Know about Male Sexuality

Bronnie on Bravo

I don't know how I got bit with the manlove bug, but it definitely infected me. For the past couple of weeks I've been watching 'Make me a Supermodel' on Bravo, and mostly all I watch it is to see the guys. The women can be gone and I wouldn't care. I think most of America felt the same because whenever there was an elimination with a female in it she was as good as gone. My favorite two on the show were Ronnie (an openly gay model) and Ben (married his high school sweetheart). There was so much steam between the two that it fogged up my TV screen. The little teases. I think that all of America who enjoyed these two were holding their breath waiting for a minute of inhibition when they kissed or something along those lines. And what does that say about us, because Ben is married to a lovely wife and we were still like kiss Ronnie. Whoops. Sorry, but those two were hot, hot, hot. Now everyone is begging for a reality show with them and I'm on the Bronnie train. I would love to see more of these guys in the future.

What I'm reading

and I shouldn't even be reading but I can't help myself

1. Playing With Fire by Kiernan Kelly (really cool story)

2. Strongman by Denise Rossetti ( I hope I spelled that right)

3 Angel's Evolution byT.A. Chase

4. Tinder by Tory Temple

5. Bite by Sean Micheal

6. When Dreams Come True by Pat Cromwell (okay this one was for my review group)

7. Reyardine by Lycinda Storey (another review group read, sigh)

8. True of Heart by M.L. Rhodes (another great read but I'm a sucker for swordplay, no pun intended)

My Neck of the Woods

So, I really don't even know if anyone reads this thing. Occasionally I get a comment, so I'm pretty sure a least one person ducks through here every now and then--Only to have their hopes for an update on my AFF stories or G-Strain dashed on the rocks. Sorry ya'll I've been super busy, but who isn't right. Here I've made a list

1. In the process of getting my website design. I will announce when you can find me at www.sagewhistler.net when its finished.

2. DELL took over a month to send me my freaking new labtop and my last one is on the fritz so my writing has been stunted.

3. I joined Dark Diva Reviews so now I have a obligation to read and review. Yeppers, I'm super excited.

4. Torn, All I Want for Christmas, ItTakes a Thief, and two free reads Boogeyman and Gone Baby, Gone are out at allromanceebooks.com and cacoethespublishing.com so go check them out, at least check out the free reads.

5. Midterms--for some reason the teachers simultaneously figure that it is suddenly time to assign long boring papers. ARGH!

6. Working on the next installment of Ink and Pets, and Monster. I have read all the inquiries about the stories. Someone even offered me chocolate to continue. I must say I am very flattered and appreciative and I want to do you guys proud. Release date of these updates depend on the amount of free time I have left after seventeen other freakin' jobs.

7. I am constantly bombarded with new story ideas. I think its an affliction I will never be free of and personally I don't want to. If I had written a story for everything I've come up with in my lifetime I think I'd have about 800 books, honestly. My lastest idea is taking precedence over all my other work because I'm in the mood to write a paranormal after G-Strain is all said and done. Lets just say my new idea involves is called Hellborne. Its the story of five generals who escaped from hell. I have cool names to go along with them too so expect to see Arrogance (Rogan), Burden, Wrath, Sabotage and Strife in the future.

Pictures of the Week

This week theme, yeah you guessed it FIRE!!!!!!!!!!lol

My Cover For It Takes a Thief

WARNING: Reading material for ages 18yrs and up-- m/m fiction. Descriptive language and homoerotic sexual practices.

Price: $3.50

Ebook: It Takes a Thief

Author: Sage Whistler

Release: March 17, 2008

Anthony Young has spent half his life as a member of the gang Tray Side, but getting out of a gang isn’t easy. Blood in. Blood out. Even his close ties with the gang’s leader become twisted, as a man he once thought of as a father figure reveals a dark side Anthony never wanted to see.

With the demand of payment for his freedom, Anthony sets out to pull off what he hopes is his last job.

Valery Balen is the target, but not the kind of mark Anthony imagined he’d hit. When fate and circumstance intervene, Anthony finds himself on the end of another bargain: belong to Valery for a week. But the cost of this freedom may be more than his body… it might just be his heart…and soul.

Book can be found at Cacoethespublishing.com and allromanceebooks.com

Favorites of March

Books

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1.Gold Warrior -Clare London

2.Bareback-Chris Owen

3.Shadows of the Wolf-Jez Morrow

4. Ki'iri- L. E. Bryce

Movies

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1. Eastern Promises

2. Michael Clayton

3. War

4. 3:10 to Yuma

TV

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1. American Idol

2. Flavor Flav

3. Doctor Who

4. Oprah's Big Give

Songs

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1. Ooh La- The Kooks

2. Cry Little Sister Gerard

3. Red Sky-Thrice

4. Trust Me- The Fray

Author Commonality

I have observed over time a common aspect among a surprisingly large number of authors in the e-book world. Perhaps you as a reader, or author, have observed this pattern as well. I myself only fall into two categories.

1. Coffee drinkers--Alot of authors are habitual caffeine cravers, as in, they can't start their day or concentrate without a cup of Joe. I just happen to dislike coffee:p I get my fix from other sources of caffeine.

2. Pisces or Capricorns-with nifty myspace profiles you can see for yourself that a large amount of authors fall into these two categories--of course with all the authors there are in the world, every sign is sure to be represented, but maybe I'm biased because the authors I read and know are these signs. (I'm a Cappie if you're curious)

3. Owners of a pet-- I have no idea if alot of people in general own pets, but authors sure seem to have one or two, or three. Often there are pics of them on their sites--cats that lounge on computer keyboards or dogs that curl at an author's feet when they type. I don't have a dog, but I plan on getting a Dachshund after college.

4. Stay at home mothers. In the e-book world at least, the internet has become an easy and convenient way to gain access to the world without leaving your home. Since mostly women purchase e-books, it is to be expected that the majority would write them.

5.Women--yes, we women rule the romance/erotica universe. I don't think there is any clear answer to why this is. I know that studies in gender differences have revealed that women are better in writing and comprehension. Men on average are better at math and science. Perhaps too, we women are more intrigued by the fanciful or imaginative aspects in romance/erotica. Our society has definitely biased the roles of male and females. "Chick flicks" for example are a term for romance movies and "chick lit" *shrugs* girly books I suppose. :p


Not about the author so much as what is being written

6. Threesome or gay fiction sales--I've been visiting e-book websites and I've noticed that most books in the bestseller section are threesomes or gay fiction. I guess it's a pretty hot commodity right now--as well as writing about bad boys (demons, vampires, lycans/werewolves, big-brawny alien dudes)

Popular names-- What name do I think I've seen in about a bizillion books-- well here is a few to say the least (they are in no particular order)

1. Adam
2. Remy/Remmy/Remington
3. Gabriel
4.Sterling
5. Daniel (goodness knows there is enough of those) Yes, I have one in a story of mine too. lol
6. Jaime/Jamie
7. Tony
8. Jack
9. Reese
10. Michael/Malachi
11. Nick/Nicholas/Nikolai

Trends

Blond haired blue eyed men
Red headed women-- portrayed as fire brands--ergo the hair
Men with long hair--guess that's back in YAY
Gunslingers-guess there is nothing sexier then cold steel eh? lol
Visual opposites--if the female is blonde you can almost count on a dark haired male and vice versa
Petite pitted against Brawn--even in gay fiction which I write, if the hero or heroine is able to take care of his/herself (even if they come in small packages) the love interest will almost certainly be bigger and brawnier (guess this isn't so much a trend as its been longstanding)
Fragmented family-in a large number of books (which I haven't necessarily read but can deduce from the synopsis) a family member is gunning for the main hero or heroine and they are in need of protection
Alcohol but no cigarettes-- just goes to show what society thinks is sexy. I think I have read a total of two books where one of the hero/heroines smoked anything other then cigars
Pale skin vs bronze--I never understood why this was so attractive, and only because it does not seem to reflect a society where tanning salons are springing up everywhere
Hell-- this seems to be a hot topic as well as tortured souls who escape from it to find true love--I wonder if ten years ago ,if this would have been a touchy subject
lifemates--its a great way to explain instant attractions and quick coupling-- you just smack 'they are lifemates' on it and we get the okay sign, lol Don't get me wrong I love the concept.
Nature-- go ahead and count your stash of e-books and see which ones feature woods and cabins--you'll be surprised. I know I was.

Stepping out on a limb- More then ever before we authors are writing about things that might have been taboo years ago. I applaud the effort. Here are some of the themes we write about.

1. bondage/submission
2. homosexuality
3. handicaps
4. twincest
5. interracial couples
6. unconventional body types (although this applies mostly to women)
7. crossdressers/transgender
8. fem dominant
9. fetishes
10. moresomes (more the menage a trois)

Pictures of the Week #3

I've picked some interesting photos this week. I've tentatively named them myself.

1. Freefall
2. Wizard
3. Under Moonlight